Angry Much?

Hey there! Remember that post from a few weeks back, "Worth It"? Remember we said we'd talk about anger sometime? Yeah, this is that post. So, relax and open your mind, we're going to be rounding up all that anger and working on it. Good? Alright.

So, first of all, I'll quickly chip it in here that anger is a valid emotion (I don't think any emotion is invalid), but how we manage it is high-key everything. One major key to managing anger is learning it beforehand. You don't get to be angry and start thinking in the midst of the anger how to control it. Before you say "Buhari" (forgive me), it's zero to hundred. I believe there are no certain things that make us angry, especially if you're in Nigeria where almost everything is designed to do so, so the best thing is to always have a mindset on how to manage that emotion.

When you get angry, do not react. As difficult as it may sound, this is the best way to tame your anger. If you're scrolling through your timeline on Twitter and you read through that triggering thread, avoid the urge to dish out your hot take, because your hot take could land you in hot cake (leave me 😑). Exit the thread or tweet, and scroll far away as possible. Don't go through the comments, because you'd be doubly triggered, trust me. If it's a physical situation, try to leave the environment. If it's somewhere you cannot leave, have it engraved in your head that you must not react. Believe me, most reactions to anger end up being regretted. There are tips to calming yourself down in moments like this, such as the counting to ten, or hundred, inhaling and exhaling for a minute, and others. All these help in the direction of you not reacting.

I would like to proffer a personal solution. I have convinced myself that nothing, absolutely nothing deserves my reaction when I get angry. Quick question, what are the ways you react when angry? Yell? Break stuff? Sulk? I have realized that all these things are more harmful to me (or others) than being a solution to whatever the situation is. And why would I want to harm myself? Remember the "Worth It" post? It's all about your peace of mind. Hey, nothing is worth ruffling your state of mind. You can be angry, but you won't give it a passage to your mind. Do not feel on the situation, at all. Maybe when you're much more calm, you might want to analyze what happened, but at that moment, FLEE. Immediately you get angry, and this the mindset you already have, you easily beat every impulse to react. And even more beautiful is that, the longer you practice this, you find out that less things trigger your anger. You're already conditioned to not letting anything trouble your peace, so you're extra prepared.

Again, I'd like to stress that anger is not bad in itself. Our follow up actions is where the problem could be. Like someone said, we should respond, not react to anger/conflict. The latter is an irrational outburst, while the former is thoroughly calculated and arrives at the best outcome. Remember, it's about your peace of mind.

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